7 Relationship Destroyer

So, how is your relationship going?
Coasting along, or are you skirting in between
the landmines? These are seven things that will
sabotage any relationship.
Jealousy. Possessiveness and jealousy on your
part will only make your partner feel trapped.
This could lead to them wanting to get away
from you, because you make them feel
claustrophobic. Ironically the single thing you
wanted to prevent.
Sexual problems. If you are having sexual
problems, and are unable to talk about them, or
get it together to go for professional help, alarm
bells should be ringing. Different people have
different sexual needs, so once a week may be
quite sufficient for one partner, but not for the
other.
Old issues. Long shadows from the past can
cast a pall over present relationships. If you
have abandonment issues, self-image issues,
self-worth issues, drug issues, dependency
issues or endless financial issues, it is
unrealistic to expect them not to have an
impact on the relationship you are currently
having.
Financial woes. Financial worry is part and
parcel of life – few couples never have these.
But constant agonising about money, running up
of debts and misspending can cause a lot of
tension in any relationship. When couples are
unable to synchronise their spending habits or
their financial values, trouble looms.
Parenting styles. Parents need to present a
united front to their children. If one parent
allows the kids to do things and the other
forbids it, it causes confusion for the children
and stress in relationships. When children are
stepchildren, this becomes even more
important. Parents need to decide on certain
ground rules and stick to them.
In-law troubles. When parents are unhappy with
your choice of spouse, or parents are unwilling
to let go of their child and let him/her start a
new life, it causes great trouble for the couple.
There is ongoing stress and family dramas and
everyone feels they are being pulled in different
directions.
Old flames. Sometimes there are old boyfriends
or girlfriends who just won't back off. This can
cause endless dramas and jealous fits. If it
really upsets your partner that you see an old
flame, weigh up the different issues here. Is a
cup of tea with an old boyfriend really worth an
unpleasant atmosphere at home for days? On
the other hand, does your partner perhaps have
a reason to feel insecure.